14 Aug “I Think, At The End Of The Day, It’s About Giving Everyone, Equally, The Same Level Of Respect That You Give Your Grandmother And Honoring Others’ Dreams, Yo”, I yell at the TV in the restaurant. #waiterAF (2.4k)
How To Be Respectful Towards Others
Treat others, as you want them to treat you. To earn respect you must first, give respect and give it to yourself too, as, if you don’t respect yourself, no one else will respect you. Merely saying ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ doesn’t mean that you are being respectful. In the daily grind and stress of everyday life, we have forgotten the moral obligation of respecting others so that we are also respected in turn. If you can earn the respect of your peers and fellows, then it’s a life well lived as it is the hardest thing to get, even taking up an entire lifetime. Respect can never be forced as it comes straight from the heart. A person may respect another because of fear but that is not true respect. True respect only comes when you empathize with the other person, which will make him or her feel respected and so return the favor. To put other peoples need before yours, will convey your respect to others. Respect is the pillar that supports the bridge called relationship. Given below are tips to help you be more respectable towards others.
Tips To Be Respectful
Be kind. Showing kindness towards others is the best way to endear you to them. A simple act of kindness can show your respect towards others.
Listen attentively and show interest in whatever is said. Many a times, not showing attention, makes the other person feel that, you are not taking him or her seriously. This can be configured as lack of respect as the person may think that you do not consider him or her at par with you. So, the next time, he or she also won’t give any attention to you.
Good manners are the essential quality to show respect. So, cultivate good manners, as people get a sense of respect, when they interact with a well-mannered person. Good behavior automatically earns the respect of others.
Do not stereotype other people. Stereotyping makes, you come across as a narrow-minded person. It also shows your lack of respect for the person, you are stereotyping.
Understand other peoples, like and dislikes. This shows your commitment to them.
Don’t dictate or belittle anyone because of his or her background, religion, or social status. It is not only ill mannered, but also signals bad breeding.
You cannot respect anyone whom you mock, tease or backbite.
Develop and Improve Your Relationships by Honoring People’s Dreams
When you boil things down, your relationships with others are a support structure. If you wonder from time to time how you can be a better partner, or be a better friend, it’s incredibly simple: support their dreams.
It’s difficult to achieve things on your own, but it’s even more so when you don’t have someone that wants you to do it. You look for that support to let you know that someone has your back, and when you get it, you feel accepted in what you’re pursuing. The people that are close to you feel the same way and want that same support. If you want to improve a relationship you have with someone, Chris Guillebeau suggests on his blog that you honor that person’s dreams however you can:
Figure out what they want to do, to become, or achieve, and then help them do it. Don’t do it for them—it’s their dream, after all—but show interest and offer tangible support. How can you do that today?
Find a small way to show your support every day and it will do more than you think.
This Is What A Panic Attack Physically Feels Like
For the millions of American adults who suffer from anxiety and panic disorders, panic attacks may be one of the most prevalent and persistent symptoms. And while the experience of a panic attack is different for each individual, there is one universal truth for all who suffer from them: They’re terrifying.
“When someone suffers from one of these disorders, it’s completely debilitating,” Todd Farchione, a clinical psychologist at the Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders at Boston University, previously told HuffPost Healthy Living. “Partly just because people recognize that what they’re experiencing is irrational, but they’ve learned to respond in a certain way in those situations so it’s a natural response to those experiences. It can be frightening.”
Perhaps one of the worst parts of panic attacks is the uncertainty of their appearance. They can occur at any time — even in your sleep. The fear-inducing experience peaks around 10 minutes, but the exhausting physical symptoms can extend far beyond that.
In an effort to understand what it’s really like to suffer from these conditions, we invited our Twitter and Facebook communities to explain what a panic attack physically feel like. We selected a few of their descriptions and illustrated them below:
“Mine are like I can’t stand up, I can’t speak. All I feel is an intense amount of pain all over, like something is just squeezing me into this little ball. If it is really bad I can’t breathe, I start to hyperventilate and I throw up.”
“Can we go get some more?”, I ask my wife as I wipe the blood from Jacobate off my chin with my sleeve.
“No, hun”, my wife replies as she turns on the faucet to wash off the knives, “the law says that there’s a 2 person quota per year. Can you wait?”
“I don’t know”, I reply as I look out the window at where they used to be, “I do have an idea. Have you heard of the planet MFRUTE?”
My wife turns her head to me, “that’s dangerous. Are you saying what I think that you’re saying?”
The cold air of MFRUTE hits us as my wife and I get out of the spacejet.
“It’s true”, I say as I look around at the green hills surrounding us.
“Yeah”, my wife replies, “they really are dumping the extra population here–how many people do you think are here?”
“I don’t know”, I say as my eyes get big, “we could live off them forever, Yo.”
“I don’t think we’re supposed to be here”, my wife replies as she takes a step backwards to the spacejet, “can we go now?”
“Oh no”, I reply as I pull the blade out of my back pocket, “I’m just getting started, Yo. You ready to eat?”
I think that the best way to honor others’ dreams is to first honor yours–it means taking the action that you fear, the leap that scares you or the chance that could fail, Yo. If you don’t honor your dream, how could you honor another’s?
I didn’t travel anywhere by myself until I was twenty-two. And then I spent a year as an international hobo. Now I travel alone all the time, for work and for pleasure. There is too much I want to do and see to wait for the perfect travel buddy.
This post originally appeared on Medium.
I like solo travel now, but it can still be hard—one morning in Hong Kongrecently I ate some poorly labeled peanut sauce, had an allergic reaction, and then got ripped off by a corrupt cabbie. That was definitely a day I wished I were traveling with someone else! Anyway, here are some things I do to make it easier to go it alone. These tips are definitely not meant to double as advice for budget travel! I don’t do that at the best of times, and certainly not when I’m traveling alone—it’s stressful enough.
Embrace Introvert Time
I’m an ambivert, which means that I need to keep my social time and solo time in balance. Experimentation has let me know that three to four days of not speaking to anyone is fine, but I probably couldn’t cope with more than that. So if I go for two weeks, I break it up into social sections (places where I know people) and solo sections. If it’s a short trip, or I’m starting with solo time, then I’ll “people myself out” before my departure by going out every night. That way, when I arrive at my destination I’m due some alone time, and I’m happy to embrace it.
Always Have Data
I have very little sense of direction, but that’s OK, because I have a ridiculous number of cellphones, being a mobile developer. The first thing I do when I arrive at my destination is acquire a SIM card (or maybe a portable Wi-Fi device). Buying a card can seem overpriced, but I’m happy to pay the $40 or so for a few days —I know that it allows me to be more adventurous with restaurants (through recommendations and Foursquare), and lets me take fewer cabs (mobile mapping means I don’t get too lost and have to cab it home because I’m too exhausted to figure out another way). It also makes me feel safer — if I’m in a cab alone, I can track the route the driver’s taking and make sure it’s not out of my way.
Stay Somewhere Comfortable
Other solo travellers swear by hostels as a way to meet people, but I’m not sold on the idea. I’ve never stayed in one when traveling alone. My experience is that hostels are uncomfortable and feel unsafe (this may be skewed by the fact that the last one I stayed in was a former jail). I want to stay where I can get directions and recommendations from the concierge, relax quietly if I’m feeling overwhelmed, and order room service if I’m sick or if my flight’s delayed or if I just feel too exhausted to go out and find food. Exploring can be stressful, but where you sleep shouldn’t be.
Start With a Long Walk
I love roaming about cities by myself: I usually plug in some music, set a park as a destination in Google Maps, and go.
10 JOBS THAT PAY YOU TO TRAVEL
Wanderlusters, rejoice. If instead of applying for boring entry-level jobs on LinkedIn you’ve been reading through every travel blog out there, longing to be on the road, then you’ll love this– a list of jobs that will actually PAY you to travel. Read on to see which ones may be a good fit for you.
1. Teaching English as a Foreign Language (TEFL)
One of the most popular jobs that people who want to travel will do is English Teacher. Almost every country in the entire world is looking for English teachers, and in some places, they’re DESPERATE to hire teachers with or without experience. That being said, a large portion of these jobs require some sort of TEFL (Teaching English as a Foreign Language) certification from a reputable organization, but this can even be done online from the comfort of your own bed. Typically, countries that are in need of English Teachers are willing to train and pay for visa (such as some countries in Asia and the UAE) while for some of the more desirable locations (like Italy and Spain) you’ll be required to at least have your TEFL certification before applying.
Some perks of the job — you often don’t need a ton of experience to land your first position, you can choose to go anywhere in the world, and you usually don’t have to know the native language of a country in order to teach there (although some language skills are always helpful for your day-to-day business and your sanity in a foreign country.) Salary is largely based on your chosen region and particular position, but there’s no doubt that this could be a rewarding and enlightening mission, should you choose to accept it.
How to get your TEFL certification and find open positions:
• Here’s our guide on how to get your certification to teach English abroad.
• Websites such as Dave’s ESL Cafe are constantly updated with job opportunities around the world.
• Some TEFL certification organizations offer job-search assistance, so be sure to take advantage of that.
2. Cruise Ship Staff
If your idea of traveling is less about solid ground and more about the open sea, joining a cruise ship staff may be the perfect option for you. There are countless types of jobs dealing with the cruise ship industry, so, if you don’t get seasick, there’s a good chance you can find a position that suits your fancy. If you’re one of the lucky ones who has a gift for performance, maybe you can get a musical gig; if you’re into cooking, well, the guests need to eat! While there are seasonal positions available, do keep in mind that this job may involve long periods when you can’t see your landlocked friends. A lot of cruises do, however, make frequent pit-stops on their journeys, which could allow you to see countless new cities and countries and potentially be a part of the excursions offered by the cruise company.
How to get a cruise ship job:
• Websites such as All Cruise Jobs are great resources that post jobs all over the world.
• It’s also a good idea to check out company websites directly for current postings– try Carnival Cruises and Princess Cruises.
3. Tour Guide
What about becoming a tour guide in the city or region of your dreams?
How To Tell A Good Story
Stories grab us. They take us in, transport us, and allow us to live vicariously and visually through another’s experience. As I’ve said often in my work around presence, shared stories accelerate interpersonal connection. Learning to tell stories to capture, direct and sustain the attention of others is a key leadership skill. Storytelling also greatly helps anyone speaking or presenting in front of an audience.
Yet, as much as we love to hear the stories of others, in my research I’ve found that most people don’t consider themselves good storytellers. I will often hear reasons such as:
I never think of it
I tend to ramble and lose the point
I have a hard time gauging interest
I am never sure how much detail to use
I don’t have good stories to share